Watch Me Fail
Brett Klika C.S.C.S.
Recently, I had the opportunity to do a “ropes course” on one of my travels. The most “testing” challenge was to climb a 40-foot tall pole, stand on the top (the size of a soup can) and leap out 9 feet to grab a trapeze. Granted, I was en bolle, but it was daunting nonetheless.
Click here to see the video of me taking the leap(s). This powerful exercise inspired me to write the article below. Watch the video, read the article, then watch the video again. Do you see the parallels? Can you see the phases of the pursuit of success? What contributed to success, what contributed to failure?
There is nothing in the world like success. Whether it be a small victory or eclipsing on a long-term pursuit, manifesting your vision of fulfillment has a tremendous payoff. Generally, the grander the vision, the harder the road, the bigger the payoff.
Why doesn’t everyone attain the success they envision? Why do some know what they want and go get it, while some can’t seem to make it happen? While two people appear to be doing the same volume of work, why does one succeed and the other fail?
I’ve been on both sides of the fence. I’ve had (and still have) visions that I haven’t quite brought to fruition. I’d like to claim, “Because I don’t have time”, but that’s a cop-out. There is time for anything I truly set out to do. Apparently, my resolve is not strong enough to get these things done. I have not connected with a strong enough “WHY”.
I have also set intentions for “lofty” pursuits and after blood, sweat, tears and more blood, I’ve achieved success. The quantity and quality of time and physical/mental/emotional/spiritual energy it takes to make a vision an accomplishment is staggering. It’s sleep depriving, time consuming, nerve testing, unforgiving, and downright unpleasant at times.
Relying on your internal engine powered by the magnetic pull of your WHY is what keeps you going when you are tired, frustrated, and at times, defeated.
Even the most fruitful, hard fought attempts can end in failure. The successful never stop. They assess why they failed, and do it again. Again, the magnetic pull of their WHY is so strong nothing can stop them.
The pursuit of success has many phases. I have seen and experienced them all. It all starts with a vision. You embark on your journey motivated, excited, and eager to pop that champagne on “success day”. You can’t wait to feel that rush of success. Your vision of the end result is perfect, clean, and oh so clear.
Then you reach a point where it gets real. You have to make some critical decisions and take irreversible actions. These hit your pocket book, free time, self- confidence, and your sense of “personal security”. There are ramifications to poor decisions at this time and you realize that. Excitement turns to fear. You find yourself questioning the validity of your vision.
This is where most get off the bus. Your vision was fun to think about, but now the feelings of fear and self-doubt have dissipated all of that. Climbing back into your comfort zone is a much more secure and comfortable step. Of course, you don’t get to move forward, but the odds of failure have decreased.
For those who stick with it, pull the trigger, and take action, they find themselves at a place beyond fear. You have now hedged your bets for success or failure. There is no in between now. Fear turns into a level of focus that can’t be described. If you’ve been there, you know what I’m talking about.
This process above will land you at the final showdown. You’ve put in the quantity and quality of time. You’ve hedged your bets for success or failure. You’re tired, wounded, and at your wit’s end. You can now only pray your preparation was adequate for this moment. There you stand, staring down your destiny.
This final battle is the most critical point in determining ultimate success or failure. Some are happy they’ve gotten this far and are merely proud to fight the fight. They move forward tentatively, bracing for the possibility, nay, and likelihood of failure.
Those who are successful however, don’t want to merely fight they want to win.
They muster everything they have left and make their final push with a level of focus and commitment that can’t really be described in earthly terms. Success or failure, life or death, they will have left it all in the battle.
If your preparation and commitment is adequate at this moment, in addition to a little nudge from above, you will succeed. If it is not, you will fail. It’s like in the movie Gladiator when Caesar gave the “thumbs up” or “thumbs down” determining the fate of his enslaved pugilists. There is no “thumbs middle”.
The world’s most successful people have battled to reach this moment only to fail multiple times. The most resilient will be the ultimate victor. It’s an endurance challenge. As Napoleon Bonaparte describes the virtues of a soldier, “The first virtue in a soldier is endurance of fatigue; courage is only the second virtue.”
In other words, having the courage to try is great. The resolve to try again is greater.
Success is a long, hard road. If you’re suffering and quitting sounds like a safe option, you might be trying hard enough. When it’s time for the final showdown, leap with everything you got. When you reach your goal, don’t be afraid to do some pull-ups on the bar of destiny!!!
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Brett Klika C.S.C.S., Director of Athletics at Fitness Quest 10, is a world renowned human performance specialist, motivational speaker, author, and educator. In his 14 year career, Brett has accrued more than 20,000 hours of training with youth, athletes, executives, and every day people. He uses this knowledge and experience to motivate individuals and audiences around the world through his writing, speaking, DVD’s, and personal correspondence.